Abusive relationships 101: he doesn't have to hit you......

Today I cried. A lot. I was so overwhelmed. 

Today was a day where I did some healing. 

Today I realised just how much I have actually achieved since I became the single multiple mummy brain. 

And today, I realised how much is ahead for me and my three. So much love, so many opportunities, so many chances, so much sunshine. 

It started a week ago with an off the cuff remark from my Mum. Firstly she told me how much she wants me to go out and date. I did a triple take, you what?!? (Anyone who knows my Mum will know what I mean!) Her reply was so simple and matter of fact to her - "you need to remember what it's like to be with a man who knows how to treat a woman right. You deserve that.". I don't think she realised just how profound that was and the impact it would have on me. 

So many people think an abusive relationship simply means physical violence. 

Never has anything been more wrong than that statement. 

An abusive relationship can come in many forms. 

If anything your partner does makes you feel unsafe, nervous, uncomfortable, scared or fear for you or your children's safety, you may be in an abusive relationship. 

I am not going to sit here and tell you to leave. For I know, oh so well, how hard that is. Especially once you are stuck in the cycle of abuse. 

If you, or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, please know that there are so many people who are ready to help you. When you are ready, just speak out. Call a friend. Call lifeline. Call the police. Call me. Please. 

The effects of an abusive relationship last for so long after you leave. Some scars will never heal. But each day gets easier. Each moment that passes makes you stronger. And I promise you, it will work out. 

Here is a great link where you can read more about abusive relationships: 

http://au.reachout.com/signs-of-an-abusive-relationship

Remember, to ask for help is not a sign of weakness, in fact is shows more strength and wisdom than you could ever know you possess!

Things I never thought I would say

The twins got kittens for their birthday a couple of weeks ago. Yeah, I'm mad. But I had three kids and two dogs, I figured how much difference could two tiny kitties make, right? WRONG!

A small snippet of my day today:

The cats are still in bed

No, the cat does not want to eat your weetbix

Don't put milk in the cats ear

Don't put the thermometer in the cats ear

Don't chase the cat

Put the cat down

The cat will not fit in that drinking cup

Get the cat out of that drinking cup

Don't put the cat in the bath

Don't dry the cat with your towel

Don't put that nappy on the cat

The cat does not need to wear socks

Don't put tomato sauce on the cat

Don't lick tomato sauce off the cat

Don't wipe tomato sauce off the cat with the other cat 

Put the cat down 

The cat won't go up the chimney 

Let the cat out of the play oven 

Don't feed the cat crackers 

No, the cat does not want to go to the potty. 

I'm not sure who will go mad first, me or the cats. Although, they strangely seem to enjoy all the attention!